A Foreigner's Guide To Finnish Women

Ah, Finnish women... I remember how unprepared I was once I started scouting the streets of Helsinki. Since you’re reading this article, you probably won’t make the same mistake I did, so good job for you getting your facts checked before you head out into the cold.

Finnish women are often described as promiscuous and sexy, which is true. However, they are shy and keep to themselves, so approaching them on the street or at a bar can be very tricky. If you do, you'll probably experience some really awkward silences, or babbling from your part as you try to talk for the both of you. 

So, in this guide, I am going to tell you exactly how to unleash the promiscuous side of a Finnish girl, and how not to fall into the common foreigner traps along the way. I will be giving you an overview of the following:

  1. What do Finnish girls look like
  2. How to best describe their personalities
  3. How to start conversations, and keep them interested
  4. Should you focus on Online Game or Bars/Nightclubs
  5. Daygame, and why I don't thinks its worth the effort

Interested yet? I bet you are, let's get started. 

What Do Finnish Women Look Like?

In a few words: blond, tall, with great skin.

One of the best traits of Finnish women is their skin. If you end up going to Helsinki, you will get to know that sauna is a must in Finland. They love spending time in the sauna, their water is super clean and healthy, plus they don’t have that much sun.

All these factors are the reason why their skin is so good. And it’s followed by their fairy-like silver-white hair. You will feel like you found yourself in some land of the Elves. But the natural super light color of their skin is the reason why they dye it, and they do it a lot.

Portrait of a hot Finnish girl with blond hair smiling

They have a significant advantage with that natural light color; they don’t have to bleach their hair to get it properly dyed so that you will see girls with different hair colors, but with super quality hair. The light hair and skin color are still predominant. Although, you will find tanned ones too.

The Finnish standard of beauty is health, and you will notice how healthy the women are and how they have that natural glow.

Are the Finnish girls' personalities as cold as the weather?

Finnish women are not the girly-girl type. And you will like that; I loved that fact about them. They are more casual than some guys you know, I bet. The girls who look like they are headed to walk on the red carpet are pretty rare.

They are simply not that bothered to look like the models from the fashion blogs like we all used to girls to behave. Instead, you will see a lot crazier hairstyles and colors matched with a casual outfit. Once you get to know a girl and set up a date, this one won’t take forever to get ready, and it will feel very good and refreshing.

Contrary to the high-maintenance girls we all used to, Finnish girls are not arrogant and obsessed with themselves.

In Finland, people are very friendly and open-minded, and because of that, you might expect a lot of girls to have tattoos, piercings, and crazy outfits. Now, when I say crazy, I mean a lot of different layers of clothes, and big scarves. Yes, it is that cold.

The weather has its impact on their looks as well. When you know you will face extremely cold weather outside; you stop caring about your appearance that much, and you focus on how you to keep yourself warm.

1. They are interested in foreigners

Yes, bonus points for all of us who are visiting Finland!

It’s awesome to know that they are eager to engage in contact with foreigners, and even gladly so. Finnish girls are very open, and they love to date a guy from a different country, culture or race.

They love men who are exotic to them; they are used to tall and very blonde guys. Brown and black men have probably the most advantage. But, since the immigrant crisis and all the problems that came along with it, a lot of immigrants fled to Finland so soon black men won’t be so exotic, so if you’re black, take advantage of your looks while you can!

Being a foreigner is always a good line to start a conversation, especially when you know you will be welcomed. This is a great advantage for you. Just pretend you’re lost, ask for some direction and you already have a conversation starter.

This particularly works for the daygame; you have to be careful how do you continue the conversation, but more on that a bit later.

2. They are friendly and down to Earth

Generally speaking, Finnish people are very friendly. They are easy to approach and very open to hanging out with anyone. You will have an easier daygame than you probably used to. Even the most attractive girls won’t cut you out. 

But, they don’t like to talk a lot. In Finland, going to the Sauna is considered a social activity. And speaking in the sauna is a cultural faux pa. So be prepared to do the talking.

Sauna two healthy beautiful women relaxing lying wrapped in towel

 You will be engaging in conversations easily, but you will have to maintain them. You have to be ready to do the most of the talking. If you’re straightforward, you will be fine, but don’t engage in chit-chat, because that’s one of the most turn-offs for Finnish women.

Be sure to keep the focus on yourself; they won’t think you’re self-centered. They will love it because you will do most of the talking and they won’t have to answer any questions.

Tell them about yourself and avoid asking personal questions. You can ask anything about Helsinki, where you can go to eat, drink some coffee and even try to invite them in the first engagement, and they will be happy to do so, instead of chit-chatting and talking about themselves.

3. They are smart and educated

Finland has one of the best educational systems in Europe, and most of them speak English very well. You shouldn’t have any language barriers or communication problems with Finnish women. Fins are ranked second in the world when it comes to quality of education, and they are very productive in scientific researches.

Adult education is very popular, and folk high schools are always packed. Folk high schools allow adults of any age to attend any subject they like, so you can expect the entire population to be very educated.

Don’t be a smartass; you won’t impress the girl - instead, you’re going to chase her away with that behavior. Finnish women are one of the best educated in the whole world, so they know their stuff. They are extremely professional and very aware of international events.

If you want to impress her, here is an easy trick: Use our guide for Finnish girl names and their meanings. I promise you, no other foreign guy shes met had the remotest idea what any Finnish name means, not to mention hers. 

Portrait of a happy smiling girl holding notebook and pen and looking away isolated on the blue background

4. They are open to all kinds of fun

At a first glance, Finnish women may seem a bit too serious, but once they get to know you, you will see that they are one of the greatest party lovers you could find. Most of the time you will find them in nightclubs, but they are the biggest fans of after parties.

I personally live in Oslo, and let me give you a Scandinavian tip that you can use in Norway, Sweden, Denmark and of course Finland. The best late night pickup line, backed up by multiple one night stands in Oslo and Stockholm is.....: "Hey, do you know where the best afterparty is at?"

Innocent right... you are simply asking where you should go to have fun when you know all the bars are closed. I typically use this when it's late at night after speaking to a girl for a few minutes. This will give you a good chance of getting invited to a drunken afterparty where hooking up is very probable 🙂

Once they are done bar-hopping, they like to hang out in someone’s place. That someone can be you, remember that! Keep your attitude friendly and masculine, they love manly and passionate men. Finnish men are pretty cold, and anything contrary to that, the women find extremely interesting. 

Their second most favorable parties are festivities, and they occur two times a year. The first season is the Christmas and New Year, and it’s the best time to be in Helsinki, you won’t regret it! If you have plans for some different time of the year, then aim for their celebration of Midsummer which is at the end of June.

Everyone gets a few days off to celebrate, and they spend that time away from home. There will be a lot of fun, and a lot of drinking, I advise you to come prepared. Finnish women can handle their drinks very well; it might surprise just how much.

5. They keep their distance

This is very important, trust me, I learned it the hard way. The distance is of utmost importance when you approach a Finnish girl. They like to have their personal space intact, so don’t rush to hug and kiss a girl you’ve just met.

Keep your distance around six feet away from her. If you significantly invade her personal space, she might never talk to you again. Don’t think they are uptight; everything will be smooth and fine if you respect the distance.

And that’s not because you’re a stranger, they don’t like physical contact even with the people they know for a long time. Also, might seem strange to you, but they don’t like to shake hands, for the love of God, don’t try to shake hands. It will put her off immediately.

It’s all good, play it cool and be prepared for a lot of formality, everywhere. Even if you find yourself in a group of people hanging out, you will still notice some level of formality among them; it’s just the way it is. They like to keep their space and be respectful to others; it’s a part of their culture.

6. Long term relationships can be tricky

Chatting up Finnish girls will be somewhat easy and pretty fun, but getting a date or even a relationship might be a bit tricky. Although they are very friendly and approachable, getting their number and arranging a date is a completely different scenario.

You will be getting all kinds of different signals. They won’t exactly be straightforward about what they think about you. She might be smiling all the time, but that doesn’t mean anything. You might feel that you’ve been led on, but that’s just her being polite.

To break it down for you, especially for your day game, she might be thinking something like – “Well, he is brave enough to come up to me, I should be nice at least.

See what I mean? She will be nice and smile, but that’s just her being polite.

Smiling young blonde woman showing v sign at rocky beach on a sunny day

Just be aware of that, and try your best to see if she’s really interested in you. Play your game smoothly and casually, and eventually be straightforward with her. If she really is interested in you, she will go with you, or catch up with you later, although that might just mean she wants to get out of the situation.

Dating apps or bars?

The best way to meet the women in Helsinki is at bars and clubs. They love to drink and hang out, and what is the better place for that than a bar or club? A pro tip for you before you head out – the drinks are pretty pricey, so don’t be surprised.

Try some of the best bars and clubs in Helsinki, have few drinks with the girl at the bar, and who knows, you might just get lucky pretty easy. Places like SteamHellsinki, A21, Wallis Karaoke Bar, Holiday Bar, Löyly guarantee some good time and possibilities.

So, what about dating sites and apps?
You can try out the dating site International Cupid, it is a well marketed site for girls who are more serious about dating foreigners. The site is aimed at international dating so you can expect the girls on there to speak English. 

To be completely honest with you, as much as Finnish women are reserved in real life, they are very straightforward online, so Tinder is also a good choice.

You will find a match in no time, and they will make it clear if the date is going to end with a bang, so to speak 🙂 As much as I filled your head with the coldness of Helsinki’s dating scene, don’t be discouraged. One-night stands are a common thing, both for club hook-ups and online dating.

But be sure to use protection, Scandinavia might be a clean country, but Chlamydia is rampant in these parts.

Are they promiscuous?

I know this question is very important to you so I will keep it short. If you compare them to other European girls, sure, especially when compared to the ones in Eastern Europe. Weird combination right? Reserved and cold, yet so eager to have fun.

It’s something you have to experience for yourself. They are very laid back about it and don’t get bothered about it at all. Do you want to save yourself for marriage? Sure, why not. Do you want to have sex with as many people as possible? Fine by everyone.

Finnish women are not the girly-girl type. And you will like that; I loved that fact about them. They are more casual than some guys you know, I bet. The girls who look like they are headed to walk on the red carpet are pretty rare.

They are simply not that bothered to look like the models from the fashion blogs like we all used to girls to behave. Instead, you will see a lot crazier hairstyles and colors matched with a casual outfit. Once you get to know a girl and set up a date, this one won’t take forever to get ready, and it will feel very good and refreshing.

Contrary to the high-maintenance girls we all used to, Finnish girls are not arrogant and obsessed with themselves.

In Finland, people are very friendly and open-minded, and because of that, you might expect a lot of girls to have tattoos, piercings, and crazy outfits. Now, when I say crazy, I mean a lot of different layers of clothes, and big scarves. Yes, it is that cold.

The weather has its impact on their looks as well. When you know you will face extremely cold weather outside; you stop caring about your appearance that much, and you focus on how you to keep yourself warm.

Helsinki Nightlife and the Drinking Culture

Female enjoy in the beer outdoor,selective focus

Well, depending on what time of the year you go, there might not be a night, the summer sun shines til just before midnight, and even then it never really gets dark. If you plan to visit in late June or early July, you will experience the true meaning of Dusk to Dawn, with no night in between!

For the night game, you’ll have to work on your drinking fitness. I’m not even kidding. You think you can handle your drink? Wait until you get to Finland. My God, do those people handle alcohol, women especially, you will be swept off your feet while they only start warming up.

You have to keep up with the ladies if you think to get anything done. So hear my words – work on your alcohol tolerance. I’m not just saying this so you can prove that you’re a real party man, no my friend. Finnish girls go hard on drinks, and they the more they drink, the more sexually liberal they become

Plus, they have a one-night stand culture that goes with that perfectly. NIghtgame is your best chance to seal the deal quickly.

Helsinki daygame

Although I wouldn’t bet on daygame in Helsinki, you can give it a go in a few places, best of which would be the railway station and mall at Kamppi Center and Stockmann. Try the grocery store on the bottom level.

Helsinki daygame girls

And that’s about it. If you find yourself there in the summer, try walking around the center of the city and see where it gets you.

In conclusion

Helsinki and Finland overall are worth visiting if you’re interested in shy, platinum blondes who really lighten up once you get a few drinks in them. Similar to the girls from Sweden, they are sexually liberated women and you will have a great time if you remember the tips in this guide. 

As I mentioned before, if you're looking for something more serious, check out the online dating site International Cupid.

Stay safe and best of luck to you and your liver. Party hard.

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Anders Karlsson July 4, 2019

Not completely true information here. Finnish women (just like Nordic women generally), have a quite strong dislike of foreigners. Not so much for Europeans of course, but for blacks and browns. And especially Jews. Don´t go there my friends. There are better places to go on your holidays. When I go on vacation I visit places such as New York and Tel Aviv. Many beautiful curly-haired girls in those locations. Easy-going and flirting. They often find interest in me as a tall and White man.

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