Six Things I Learnt From Dating German Girls

Last year my company opened a new office in Berlin. Since I was among experienced employees, they’ve decided that I should go there for a couple of weeks to help our new German colleagues and make their first days at the new job easier.

I was newly single at that time, so I’ve planned on mixing this business trip with pleasure. I wanted to have fun, go out and date with girls. I’ve already known that Berlin and Germany, in general, have great nightlife but I’ve also heard stories about how Germans are a cold nation. That’s why I didn’t have any big expectations about meeting German girls or getting laid while I was there.

Now that I’ve come back from my German business trip, I can say that I was so wrong. It is not that easy to impress a German girl, but it isn’t impossible.

If you want to find out more about German girls and how to date them, please read on. Trust me; you’re going to get laid much easier than you’ve expected, maybe even fall in love and start a relationship.

Are all German women hot and sexy... 

Like Heidi Klum, Claudia Shiffer, and other top German models?

You’ll be surprised how many top models come from Germany. I think that Heidi Klum and Claudia Schiffer are basically household names in western culture. The reason for this is because they match international beauty ideal - they’re blonde, tall, blue-eyed. 

Although Germany is one of the countries with the tallest girls in the world and with a high percentage of natural blondes and blue-eyed women, not all of them look like this. I’ve met so many girls from Germany during my trip that were opposite from this international beauty ideal but still looked cute and sexy.

Woman In Love On Romantic Date

German girls prefer keeping a natural look

If you’re looking for a girl that likes to wear high heels, dresses, and make-up, it won’t be an easy task. Finding girls like this can be tough in Germany, especially in Berlin.  

Most German girls prefer comfort and casual look than high heels and tight dresses, especially in comparison to girls from other European countries. Don’t get me wrong; they don’t have a bad style. It’s just a different than a style of anglo-American or Southeastern European girls for example.

I always say that if the girl is hot, she will be sexy in whatever she wears but that’s just my opinion. Also, every person has a different type of girl that attracts them.

I’ve also noticed that not all cities are like this. I’ve traveled a bit through Germany, and I must say that girls from Munich are more feminine and petit than girls from Berlin, so maybe you should visit other cities to find what you’re looking for. 

Moreover, Munich is also a really great city and you’ll have fun there too. Make sure you stop by the Haufbrau House and Bayern Munich's football stadium.

What to expect from German girls?

German girls are not typical European girls. Some people will even tell you that they’re too complicated or complex and not easy going. Although this is partially true, it is not that hard to understand their usual personality and to adapt to it to have a successful date.

German girl in sunglasses

1. German girls are well-educated and intelligent so talking about basic topics won’t impress her   

The first thing that I’ve noticed is that they like men who are successful at their job and have various interests. They are well-informed, well-educated and intelligent so try not to spend time on basic topics like weather, food or people. This will get them bored easily.

German girls like debate, so try with interesting topics that will make her challenged on an intellectual level like politics, technology, economics, etc. If you have a successful career, your job can also be the starting point of your conversation.

However, don’t talk too much about yourself. Even though they like successful, independent men, they also like for us to be interested in them and their interests. Make compliments on things she does in her life and her interests rather than her looks or the way she dressed.

2. Honesty and straightforwardness are the cornerstones of a German women's personality

You won’t be unsure if a German girl likes you or not. German girls are pretty honest and straightforward, sometimes maybe even too much. Their honesty and straightforwardness can be borderline impolite for many guys.

They’ll tell you if they want something or not. If a German girl doesn’t like your company and tells you that, move forward and don’t try to change her mind. Trust me; it won’t work. At least you don’t have to try hard but get nothing in return.

3. German girls don’t like too many compliments but they do like attention and romance

When I’ve arrived in Germany, the first couple of time I’ve flirted with German girls I was a typical guy- lots of compliments, basic topics, etc. These interactions didn’t end well because German girls don’t like compliments too much. Moreover, they will also sense if you’re dishonest and just want to get laid.

If you want to get her to your bed, tell her that.  Now, don't be a caveman about it, but you can be a little more forward than you would with a girl from the States or the UK. 

They will appreciate this more than being dishonest and a jerk. If she’s interested, she’ll let you know. That’s one of the positive sides of German girls - honesty. 

4.German girls like to be independent and can take care of themselves

I’m not sure why they don’t like too many compliments. I’ve heard some stories that German men are not that good at giving compliments and whenever someone gives them, they think that it isn’t true. Another possible reason is that they are really independent and don’t need to be taken care of.

Most German girls appreciate gender equality. They like to be in complete control of their life just like the men they’re usually interested in.

5. Are there any great pickup lines that you can use?

German girls are open-minded and like to meet new people from other countries. Most of them are good at English so you won't have a problem talking to them. However, it would be nice if you could learn some pickup sentences in German.

They might sound cheesy and goofy but trust me; it will work. This will show you that you’re interested in their culture and nationality in some way. Also, trying to get the right pronunciation and accent will probably be funny to her and make her more interested in you.

Some of the pickup lines that you can use are:

  • Ich bin Schriftsteller und schreibe in Telefonbuch. Deine Nummer fehlt mir aber noch.

English meaning is: I’m a writer, and I’m writing a telephone book. Your number is still missing though.

  • Ich würde gerne der Grund für deine schlaflose Nacht sein.

English meaning: I’d like to be the reason for your sleepless night.

  • Leute nennen mich John, aber Sie können mich anrufen heute Abend.

English meaning: People call me John, but you can call me tonight.

6. Don’t ever be late for a date with a German woman

German people are always on time, and they don’t like for somebody to be late, even if you’re a foreigner. They expect you to respect their time so maybe it is better to cancel the date than be late for a date with a German girl. The possibility of you getting laid if you’re late is almost zero, my friend.

How and where to meet German girls?

Close-up portrait of cool girls at nightclub

What is online dating like with German girls?

There are a number of online dating applications available today, but some apps are more popular than others, and some apps have a more specific use than others.

If you want to meet girls who are serious about dating foreign men, check out the dating website International Cupid, which is a site aimed at international dating.

Tinder has a great option that lets you swipe through German girls even before you’ve arrived in the city, with it's Tinder Passport app.
You can plan your meetups and dates early. You do need to pay for this option, but I recommend it.

Another thing that Tinder makes easier is that you will also find out more about the girl you like even before you meet her in person. Text her and start a conversation. Soon you will find out if she’s the girl for a one night stand or not.

Berlin’s nightlife is the perfect setup for a German hookup

Berlin and Germany, in general, have great nightlife. There are so many great nightclubs that you probably won’t have enough time to visit them all, especially if you’re there for just a couple of days or weeks.

Of course, not all the clubs are the same, so you won’t find a German girl for one night stand in every club. The following clubs are some of my favorite places where I was going out in Berlin and got lucky.

Berghain is one of the most well known and famous clubs in Berlin. However, I’ve been there only once for various reasons. You’re probably going to wait for a couple of hours in line in front of the club to get in.

Even if you finally arrive at the entrance, there is a high chance that they won’t let you in. But once you get in, lots of beautiful, sexy German girls will be there so you can finally start flirting.

Berghain is full of dark corners and hidden rooms. There is also a dark room where anything from kissing to hard-core sex can occur.

Berlin is known for hosting most perverse and controversial parties than any other city in the world. Underground sex parties are maybe not everybody’s cup of tea but you should at go at least once to see what they're all about. Also, you don’t have to do anything; you can watch.

I’ve been to a couple of underground sex clubs in Berlin, but the KitKatClub was one that impressed me. You know that many nightclubs have a dress code? Well, this one has undress code since you’re requested to take off most or all of your clothes before you get in.

If you’re more for a chill and relaxed type of a night out, there are lots of bars where you can also meet cute German girls. Kreuzberg is a part of Berlin where you can find many cool bars and places to chill and find German girls to hook up. Even if you don’t like some bar, you can hop to another since there are so many of them in just a couple of streets.

What are the chances to hook up in Berlin and how long should you stay?

Many guys will tell you that Berlin is not one of the cities that you can easily get laid. However, this is just partially true.

If you go out on a regular date with a German girl or approach her in a bar or cafe, chances to have sex after the first date are really slim if you don’t bring your A game. That doesn’t mean that you should be persuasive. Show her that you’re interested in various ways that I’ve already mentioned.

It is much easier to hook up in one of Berlin’s nightclub. German guys are usually with their mates and don’t approach girls so the game is all yours.

All in all, I think you should stay at least 1-2 weeks in Berlin if you want to get lucky and be with German girl.


Closeup portrait of a Male and female legs during a date

German girls are not the typical European girls that you hook up with during your trips. They are more educated, independent and straight-forward. This is also what they look for in a man, even if it’s just for a one night stand.

It doens't have to be just one night stands ofcourse, take a look at International Cupid for girls who are more serious about dating foreign men.

That is why you should be yourself. Don’t overdo anything. Wear something that is casual and comfortable, don’t be persuasive and listen to her. Looking at her longingly and wondering what your sex might be won’t get you past the first date.

You probably think that they are much complicated than other European girls but actually they aren’t. You probably just got used to a more usual type of girls in Europe like Spanish girls, Serbian girls etc.

It is cool to challenge yourself once in a while and try to impress girls that are different and untypical for you. If you succeed, you will feel more fulfilled than when you hook up with a Spanish girl for example.

And one more thing. Some of the most common girl names in Germany are Mia, Emma, Hannah, Sofia, Anna, Lena, Lea, so maybe you can start your flirting with a guessing her name game. It might sound cheesy but why not?

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